Every year, for as many years as my children can count, I have promised to be more punctual. I resolve each year, to be better at beating the clock, I will be on time. And yet, each year I promise to be more punctual. Whatever the reason, there are many things that I wish I were better at. It is my belief that we should all strive to be better. Growth is integral to the human experience. When I look back – nothing I achieved was the casualty of ‘easy.’ Every day presents a new opportunity for growth. I capitalize on this opportunity and aim to always dream bigger and push myself further. Along the way, the following authors and their books have really inspired and assisted me on my journey.
The Giving Tree by Shell Silverstein: I read this book to my children when they were young. I read it to my grandchildren now. I love, love, love this book. As a mother, as a friend, as a wife this book really resonates for me. I believe that who we are is a function of what we give to the world – to those we love – to those we barely know. I believe that our sacrifices, certainly pave the way for our children and that it is incumbent upon us to be the most charitable whether with our time or our wallets. We must strive to bend so that the bow does not break. Always go the extra mile – Always smile, Always make time, Give to the world what you have to Give it comes back to you in spades.
The Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle: Not that I am one to procrastinate, but I am one to get distracted. Moreover, this book taught me that unless I elect to set aside time to get something done – I will not get done. It is so easy to get caught up in moments – but in our desire to propel ourselves further, we must first take time for ourselves. Schedule time for yourself to get things done. Set aside ten minutes and then reward yourself for having dedicated the time to reaching that goal. A goal will remain a goal unless you concentrate your energy on achieving it. This book taught me that I must set aside the time for all the things I want to get done or that I wish to achieve. And it is as simple as scheduling myself for 10 minutes a day.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: Life is tricky. People are tricky. I have found this book and the Toltec Agreements to be invaluable in guiding my conduct. I often quiz my children, ‘What are the Four Agreements?’
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
I feel that these agreements and the reasons to implement them as a guide in your day to day is clear. I hope that these tidbits help you on your journey as much as they have helped me.
With morsels of love,